Picture this: You’re frustrated, stressed, anxious—or, a combination of the three. You take a look at your calendar, and realize it’s been jam-packed for the past few weeks.

“I wish I could just take a break to regroup,” you mutter to yourself at your desk or in the middle of your shift.

But then, all the questions flood your mind: How do I even ask for a mental health break? Will my manager let me? What if it makes me look lazy? And, even if they do say I can take a break, what do I do with that time? How do I actually care for my mental health?

If this scenario feels familiar, you’re not alone: In a recent Shine survey of 1,774 people, 95% of people said a mental health day would improve their performance at work—but only 28% of people said they feel comfortable requesting a mental health day at work.

95% of people said a mental health day would improve their performance at work—but only 28% said they feel comfortable requesting it.
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It’s a huge gap, but one that we can fix.

What people need to feel empowered to take care of themselves: The number one request, according to our survey, was support from employers encouraging mental health breaks.

That’s why on May 15, 2019, we launched the first-ever National Mental Health Break. Leaders at 70+ companies across the U.S. (including Lyft, Dropbox, Rent the Runway, and Giphy, to name a few) encouraged their employees to take a mental health break at 3 p.m.—whether that meant heading out early for the rest of the day or stepping away from the pressures of work for 15 minutes.

These companies challenged the notion that you can't be ambitious and take care of yourself—you can do both, and it's crucial to do both. It’s a lesson our founders learned firsthand while building Shine, too, and it’s become a core value of our company we call Go Big and Go Home.

And the nationwide break was just the beginning. Every day is an opportunity to prioritize your mental wellbeing, but we get that it can feel confusing. Our survey showed people also want resources to help them know when they need a mental health break and what to do when they decide to take one.

So, let’s make it less complicated. Let's break the spiral of silence around mental health in the workplace and talk about how to take a mental health break.

Here, we’ll walk you through it all. Read through and bookmark this resource for the next time those "Maybe I need a break?" thoughts pop up in your head—we'll help you answer them.


Your Guide

●︎ What is a mental health break?

●︎ How do I know if I need one?

●︎ What if I feel nervous asking for it?

●︎ How do I ask for it?

●︎ What do I do during it?

●︎ How do I know if I need more support?

●︎ How can I help other people?

What is a mental health break?

Ultimately, it’s exactly what it sounds like: taking the time away from your work to take care of you. For some, it might mean taking 15 minutes to reset in the middle of a work day. For others, it may mean taking an entire day off once a quarter to recharge and better tackle the upcoming weeks.

Whatever it may look like to you, the impact is pretty powerful. “When people take a mental health day when they need it, they can recharge and they can come back to work feeling refreshed,” Patricia Thompson, Ph.D., a corporate psychologist and management consultant, tells Shine. “And then when they’re feeling good, they’re more engaged with the work that they’re doing and the business is only going to benefit.”

'When people take a mental health day when they need it, they can recharge and they can come back to work feeling refreshed.'
- Patricia Thompson, Ph.D.
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How do I know if I need one?

Despite how normal it may feel in our #hustleculture, burnout isn’t healthy. It takes a mental toll and can lead to symptoms that overlap with many mental illnesses. Plus: It’s not sustainable.

It’s crucial to take note of signs of burnout, and the earlier the better. That way, you can take action before you’re in full-blown burnout mode.

“Burnout starts relatively subtly,” Anna Rowley, Ph.D., a psychologist and millennial wellbeing expert, tells Shine. “If you see a fire that’s raging, it’s started somewhere with a small ember, and that’s a bit like burnout.”

Burnout can show up in your life in different ways. “Some people become emotionally and physically depleted—they literally are just exhausted,” Rowley explains. “Some other people feel like, ‘No matter what I do, I’m not getting any personal accomplishment from my job, it’s just a treadmill.’”

According to the Mayo Clinic, other signs of burnout also include:

●︎ Cynicism or critical nature towards your job

●︎ Decreased energy and productivity

●︎ Irritable nature and resentment

●︎ Decreased performance

Take note of the signs of burnout, and start paying attention to your stress and thinking patterns.

I think I need to take one, but I feel nervous asking for it.

Give yourself a pat on the back—because recognizing you need a mental health break is the first step.

It can be scary to ask your employer for time off, especially since paid vacation and sick days are rare, but in the words of Joy Harden Bradford, Ph.D., a psychologist and founder of Therapy for Black Girls, “sometimes taking a step back is what’s going to help you really propel forward.”

By prioritizing your wellbeing, you’re able to show up and create a bigger impact for those on your team and those in your life outside of work.

'Sometimes taking a step back is what’s going to help you really propel forward.'
- Joy Harden Bradford, Ph.D.
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But you’re not alone if you feel guilty, anxious, and scared to bring it up. The majority of Shine members said they don't feel comfortable talking about their mental health at work.

One of their main reasons why: Fear of seeming "weak" or "lazy." But experts say that mental health breaks are actually good for a company, and it will only make you a stronger employee.

“It’s socially acceptable to take a day or two days off for a sick day, but it’s less societally approved to take a day off when you think psychologically or emotionally you’re feeling under the weather or under a lot of pressure or a lot of anxiety,” Rowley says. “Yet there’s no difference.”

It can be easy to talk yourself out of it, but if a "Do I actually need this?" moment pops in your head, take a moment to list some stress points that you’ve been facing lately.

Sometimes, putting things on paper and reflecting on what time away will allow you to bring to those obstacles—more energy, a fresh perspective, renewed hope—can motivate you to actually create space away from them. Also: It can empower you to advocate for your needs.

For people of color or folks in marginalized groups, there can be extra pressure at play and it can be uncomfortable to advocate for yourself with that in mind.

“For black women, a lot of times they are already feeling silenced in the workplace,” Bradford says. “Sometimes black women are even hesitant to take sick days when they’re physically ill—so a mental health day is definitely not something they’re going to take.”

But while various barriers might prevent you from seeking a mental health break, remind yourself that you are worthy of the space and time to refuel.

“Give yourself permission to fully enjoy it without guilt, and recognize that you are deserving of self-care and that’s a good thing,” Thompson says.

It's also helpful—and empowering—to know your rights as an employee.

It's illegal in the U.S. to discriminate or harass someone because of a mental health condition. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) states that "if a reasonable accommodation would help you to do your job, your employer must give you one unless the accommodation involves significant difficulty or expense."

You have rights when it comes to taking time off, too. The Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) entitles employees to 12 weeks of unpaid leave for serious health conditions—but it does have a few stipulations based on the size of your company and how long you've been employed.

You can learn more about your rights under FMLA here and get support from the EEOC if you think your rights have been violated here. If your company has their own mental health policy (some do!), be sure to review that, too.

Ok, I’m ready to ask: What do I say?

Thompson suggests asking your boss or manager in person so you can better gauge their response and refine your ask for the next time you may need to take a mental health break.

But we get it—that can sometimes be scary. Reaching out via email or Slack also works, and Rowley says don’t feel like you have to go into a lot of detail. “Make it easy for the person you’re talking to to say yes,” she says. “It might be uncomfortable for both of you to talk about this.”

Use these templates as a framework to talk to your employer IRL, via Slack, or over email:

In Person:

Hey (insert name here)! I realized it’s been a while since I’ve taken time off for myself, so I was hoping to take time off on (date) and come back refreshed and ready to go.

Via Slack:

Hey (insert name here)—I haven’t been feeling 100% and was hoping to take some time off on (date). I would love time to recharge so I can come back to work more productive and focused!

Via Email:

Hello (insert name here), I’d love the opportunity to take some time off this week on (date). I haven’t been feeling 100% lately, and could definitely use this time to refuel and come back to work feeling ready to take things on.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Best, (Your name)

If it feels difficult to ask, remember to be kind to yourself. It’s human for it to feel uncomfortable, and know it’ll get easier with practice.

“When you first advocate for yourself, it’s really hard and painful to feel vulnerable and exposed,” Rowley says. “But once you’ve done it, you'll feel a sense of release and relief, and it'll be so much easier to do the next time.”

'When you first advocate for yourself, it’s really hard and painful to feel vulnerable and exposed. But once you’ve done it, you'll feel a sense of release and relief, and it'll be so much easier to do the next time.'
- Anna Rowley, Ph.D.
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I got the time for myself—but now what do I do?

If that question is top of mind for you, you’re not alone. When surveyed, 53% of Shine members said knowing how to take an effective mental health day would empower them to do it more.

Unlike sick days (which have the whole chicken-soup-in-bed thing going for them), there’s no social script for mental health days—we don’t typically see them played out in movies or TV shows.

Plus: Since we don’t talk about them openly, we don’t really swap tips at the water cooler about what’s effective or how to do it. “Hundreds of millions of people take mental health breaks, but we just don’t talk about it,” Rowley says.

With mental health breaks, Rowley says it's key to think ahead and “prescribe” what will be restorative for you. “Plan for it, a bit like a holiday,” she says. “Just as you would go to the doctor to get a prescription, you can take a day where you’re prescribing: I need a warm bath, a good sleep, do yoga, read a good book, curl up and watch a good movie, and I’ll come back to work feeling whole.

There’s no right way to take a mental health break, but Rowley says an effective break will engage a few different senses and involve activities that bring you joy. “A mental health day should be an opportunity to really treat the whole person and have a more holistic view of feeding and nourishing ourselves in different ways,” she says.

'A mental health day should be an opportunity to really treat the whole person.'
- Anna Rowley, Ph.D.
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Even if you aren’t able to take a full day off and only have a few minutes each day, there are simple to take care of yourself. Savor that cup of coffee, go for a quick walk outside, or take an extra five minutes in the morning or evening to listen to a meditation in the Shine app (there's even a free meditation to help you kickstart a mental health break!).

Here's a flow chart to help you figure out what works best for you and your time:

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How do I know when it’s more than a mental health day?

“You can tell you’ve had a good mental health break when you experience a feeling of relief,” Thompson says. But if that sense of relief is just out of reach, you might need more than a mental health break or day off. “You might need to seek professional help if you’re chronically experiencing symptoms,” she says.

'You can tell you’ve had a good mental health break when you experience a feeling of relief.'
- Patricia Thompson, Ph.D.
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Reviewing symptoms from organizations like the National Alliance on Mental Health can help you pinpoint any feelings or patterns you notice yourself having. But ultimately, reaching out to a medical professional for insight can help you start crafting ways to deal with any mental health concerns you may have.

For some, that looks like therapy—and for others that might also include medication. There are nearly 50 million people in the United States who deal with mental illness. Just remember: Everyone may have their own journey, but you’re not alone.

If you are having thoughts of suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 (TALK). If you or someone you care about needs help, text 741741 to talk with a crisis counselor at Crisis Text Line—it's free, confidential, and available at all hours.

How do I help people around me prioritize their mental health, too?

The first step: Talk about it.

So often, it can feel like we’re the only ones in the world experiencing feelings of loneliness, anxiety, burnout, and more. There’s unfortunately a spiral of silence around mental health, even though 1 in 5 adults in the U.S. will experience a mental illness in a given year. You’re not alone.

It can feel scary to kickstart a conversation about mental health—and like a move that might seem weak. But it actually does the opposite. “When you see someone who seems like they’re perfect, it’s hard to relate to them,” Thompson says. “But when you can show you’re a well-rounded human with weaknesses and vulnerabilities, that opens the door for others to talk about that.”

If you take time to care for your mental health, the best thing you can do is share that with others. Maybe that means telling your friends when you take a mental health break. Just as you would talk about a sick day (“I took the day off because I had such a bad cold"), you can share why you took a day for yourself (“I took the day off because my stress hit a high”).

According to our survey, 33% of people would feel more comfortable taking a mental health day if they knew other people in their office took mental breaks, too.

According to our survey, 33% of people would feel more comfortable taking a mental health day if they knew other people in their office took mental breaks, too.Tweet

Or, maybe it means texting a friend to remind them to prioritize themselves today, maybe it’s sending this article to your group chat or favorite Facebook group.

By walking the walk, you’re also making it easier for people around you to realize that taking time can benefit us all.

If you’re struggling with your mental health, know that seeking help is a strength—not a weakness. If you or someone you care about needs help, text 741741 to talk with a crisis counselor at Crisis Text Line—it's free, confidential, and available at all hours.


Read next: Why Mental Health Breaks Are Good For Business

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