16 Tried-and-True Ways Shine Members Cope With Tough Feels
May 31, 2018
How are you feeling?
It's a question we've been thinking about a lot here at Shine this past month. May is Mental Health Month, and we launched an initiative called All The Feels in honor. Our goal: To help Shine members embrace their full range of emotions in the name of better mental health.
As part of our iniative, we themed each day's Shine Text around a specific feeling—from confidence to embarrassment to feeling powerful. We wanted to hit on the feelings we love to savor and the not-so-cute ones we all need a little help accepting.
And we learned a lot.
The three feelings that had the Shine community most interested? Feeling purposeful, feeling overwhelmed, and feeling enough.
We also learned that our community already has an emotional toolkit—a go-to activity or ritual that helps them accept a tough feeling. As we shared tips and mindset shifts to help our community cope with their feels, Shine members joined in a powerful way.
Here, we rounded up advice straight from the Shine community on how to embrace all the feels—the good and the not-so-delightful:
We're All Learning How to Embrace Our Feels
When I feel anxious, it helps to take three deep breaths while thinking about a happy moment when I was surrounded by people I love. @shinetext #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/xek99NEnZu— Yamilka Hayes (@YamilkaHayes) May 2, 2018
When I feel insecure, it helps to practice positive self talk. Look yourself in the eyes and recognize the Devine God/Goddess before your eyes. @shinetext #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/2kSD1fJscp— Jose cansecko (@cansecko_jose) May 1, 2018
When I feel annoyed/upset/irritated, it helps to stop & analyze why i’m feeling that way/what is REALLY causing those feelings. @shinetext #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/GPSDJDZCK6— LORD PRETTY $AMANTHA (@fiveAM_) May 1, 2018
When I feel anxious/insecure it helps me to be productive. Activity allows for my brain to refocus and also feel good about taking steps forward - be it exercise, work or laundry! #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth #LiveWell https://t.co/qbC2qbvtX7— Nicole M (@HashtagLiveWell) May 1, 2018
When I feel vulnerable, it helps to remember my entire story is who made me who I am today and I love that person, flaws and all. @shinetext #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/7tDyfbOJqV— GraceAndCourage (@ChristineHettel) May 1, 2018
When I feel overwhelmed with anxiety, it helps to do something that stimulates more than one sense, such as watching something or doing something with my hands while listening to music 🙏 #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/xunnSBisJY— Hope (@hjay14) May 1, 2018
When I feel an indiscernible sadness, it helps to dig it up like an archaeologist, dust it off, and figure out what fear is at its heart. @shinetext #EmbraceAlltheFeels #MentalHealthMonth https://t.co/BOdVyt7Opi— Blair Bingham (@PrimroseMarie) May 1, 2018
And Sometimes, We Can Celebrate the Tough Feels
Towards the end of May, we checked in to see which feelings the Shine community was not just accepting, but celebrating.
Here, just a handful of reasons why our members are here for the feels:
I celebrate feeling content, because it means I love my life, who I have become. The me today is the best me -- flaws and all other perfections. 😉😉😉 @shinetext #EmbraceAllTheFeels https://t.co/oL4gK59c0r— Maria Angelova Ⓥ (@mimian2009) May 24, 2018
I celebrate feeling worried, because it means that I have people in my life that are so very important to me. It also reminds me of the compassion i have for others. That is totally worth celebrating. @shinetext #EmbraceAllTheFeels https://t.co/s1y97caXLz— Kimmy G (@KGphoto) May 23, 2018
Yes, Mental Health Month ends today—but caring for our mental wellbeing is truly a 24/7 thing. It's just as important as caring for our physical health, and good mental health means embracing our full range of emotions—not just the convenient ones like happiness and joy.
As you slide into June, July, and beyond, remember to accept, respect, and get curious about your feelings. Don't be afraid to catch feels—and know you have the power to get through.
If you’re struggling with your emotions, know there are professionals who can help. You can find support through the National Alliance on Mental Illness, or text Crisis Text Line directly at 741741—it’s available 24/7, it’s confidential, and it’s free.